“We would rather be ruined than changed
We would rather die in our dread
Than climb the cross of the moment
And let our illusions die.”
– W.H. Auden

Why is it so difficult for us to change? What is it within our human make-up that insists change is not necessary whenever the first sign that a change may be needed occurs? What is it about change that paralyzes us in fear?

For a very long time, I spent most of my life resisting change – any change – even change for the better. The fear of the unknown was way worse to me than staying in my comfort zone, even if my comfort zone was a place where I wasn’t necessarily happy. In viewing change in this way, I wasn’t really living, I was just existing. I was surviving in the moment, and wishing things were better, but without me having to make any changes.

My life started to get significantly better, and pretty quickly, when I became willing to be changed – to “climb the cross of the moment” and let my “illusions die.” I had come to a place in my life where I was miserable enough to let go of what I thought was best for me in exchange for what those who were living a relatively happy life suggested would be best for me. In trusting that no matter how difficult it would be to experience the discomfort of changing my attitude and my way of living, I have experienced fruitful and worthy results. In having faith as I walked through the changes in my life, God held me up and gave me all the courage I needed to come out on the other side as a more contented and peaceful person. Basically, in facing the fact that I didn’t have all the answers, I was given the keys to a joyous and hopeful heart.

Today, after the initial knee-jerk reaction of fearing change, I usually enjoy embracing change. Depending on what the change is, it may take me a little longer to accept its necessity, but once I do, I find that life is a lot smoother sailing and my heart is filled with hope instead of fear. It is a much more relaxing way to live life – and for that, I am grateful to be willing to change.

What changes have you been afraid to make recently? Have you taken your fears to your Higher Power in prayer? Have you asked a trusted friend of colleague for their advice or opinion? If not, why not? Your happiness is worth the effort! You are worth the effort!